Vulnerability is not only for women. I would hope that would be obvious. As a modern feminist, I’m so very, very tired of assigning emotions, actions or roles to genders. Sometimes I’m angry – like when another driver doesn’t use their indicators, or someone tries to make laws about my uterus, which is none of
We’ve all been on bad dates. You don’t need a giant signal from the sky to tell you that this person isn’t your fairytale true love, but you need to make sure that they know this, too, and ideally without causing too much of a scene. With that in mind, here are the best (and
Dating is scary. For some people, the biggest threat is you’ll meet someone really boring and be stuck talking about cryptocurrency whilst you neck a cocktail and then climb out of the bathroom window – if romcoms are to be believed. For other people, especially women and members of the LGBT+ community, a bad date
All happy couples are alike; each unhappy couple is unhappy in its own way. We all know couples who fight all the time, constantly cheat, blame and resent each other, believe in the ‘sunk cost’ fallacy, stay together for the convenience or because of their children or are simply too ground down to bother separating,
Imagine the scene. A hospital ward, beds side by side, children are born simultaneously. The kids are next-door neighbours, perhaps, and share a chaste kiss on the cheek on their (joint) tenth birthday. A few years later, they fall in love, marry and buy a house with a nice golden retriever. This is a couple
Eroticism is fluid, personal, and so much more. Let’s celebrate and explore. Earlier this month, Esther Perel published a thoughtful and interesting reflection on eroticism and how it’s more than just the sexuality you share with a partner – it’s about self-exploration and understanding. Perel posits that we are responsible for turning ourselves on and
Reddit’s Am I The Asshole sub has long been a source of entertainment for me. I won’t actually use the site – everyone I’ve met who uses Reddit is an insufferable know-it-all whose every word drips with condescension and white male supposed superiority – but other forms of social media seem to be keen to
Here Are Some Things About a Person That Would Turn Me Off Dating Them Obsessively into the gym. Exercise is great; refusing to eat bread is strange and concerning. Not a feminist. Women deserve bodily autonomy, equal pay and fair treatment. Bad breath. I wouldn’t want to kiss anyone with rotten teeth. I imagine if
Rape is horrifying. I’m not here to deny that, and if you are, then you need to seriously reevaluate your life. What makes things, somehow, even worse, is when the rapist is supposed to be a trustworthy person; someone you can turn to or rely upon, especially in a professional circumstance. Whilst the UK still
My friends and I were at brunch last week when the topic of dating came up. One of them – let’s call her Patricia – was upset about how much the dating world has changed since we were in our twenties. ‘It used to be so straightforward!’ she said, ‘You met someone you liked, you
