In September, The Atlantic published an article called “Technology Can Make Your Relationships Shallower”, written by a man called Arthur C Brooks. I think I speak for all of us when I say Okay, Boomer. Brooks starts by citing a study done in 1998 about internet usage in communal living spaces. As someone born in
Experts are going to disagree on the most important thing in a relationship. Is it affection, love, respect, a shared sense of humour, complimentary values, support, or chemistry? I would argue that all of these are necessary, plus a little bit of magic and the ability to sometimes not tell someone they’re turning into their
The idea that women aren’t attracted to nice guys is one of the most infuriating and sexist myths around. On the surface, it seems like the kind of thing someone would whine about after being turned down – “how could she do this to me, I was so nice to her”, as though an actually
What does a happy relationship look like? Is it the 1950s ideal, where the husband provides and the wife has the children washed and sedated, then provides a home-cooked meal with inventive use of gelatin? Is it the cliche from the romcoms of the 90s, where the man surprises the woman at her job at
Whether on a dating app or in real life, sometimes you come across someone and realise that you never, ever want to speak to that person again. Depending on how well you know that person, and if you’re likely to have to interact with them again (colleagues and good friends, significant others, for example), this
Dating is either the best or the worst. Yeah, maybe you’re talking to a few people and exploring new places, having great sex and scintillating conversations, or… well. There’s monotony, boredom and repetition. If you’re in the former phase, good for you! Enjoy it and make sure you tell your friends about the more ridiculous
There are moments in your life when you receive news that is so shattering, you remember exactly where you were when you heard it. The queen’s death, the time you became a sibling, that sort of thing. When I found out that the Supreme Court in the USA was planning on revoking widespread access to
Let’s get one thing clear: endlessly doing anything, really, is going to be bad for your mental health. Endlessly going to the gym, endlessly drinking, endlessly doing the same monotonous job – it makes life feel like a drag, and that can’t be good for you. So why would dating apps be any different? I
Communication is an incredible thing. Anthropologists might argue that what sets us apart from other mammals is our inability to shut the fuck up. Social media has meant that we’ve never communicated more. As I write this, I’m discussing dinner with my housemate, a date with my friends in a group chat, and birthday gifts
By a certain point in our lives, we’ve all acquired some baggage. While it varies from person to person, but we all have something, of a different shape, size or weight, that we carry around with us. It might be a failed marriage, infidelity, loss of a loved one, or even abuse. Opening up in
