Imagine the scene. A hospital ward, beds side by side, children are born simultaneously. The kids are next-door neighbours, perhaps, and share a chaste kiss on the cheek on their (joint) tenth birthday. A few years later, they fall in love, marry and buy a house with a nice golden retriever. This is a couple
Eroticism is fluid, personal, and so much more. Let’s celebrate and explore. Earlier this month, Esther Perel published a thoughtful and interesting reflection on eroticism and how it’s more than just the sexuality you share with a partner – it’s about self-exploration and understanding. Perel posits that we are responsible for turning ourselves on and
Reddit’s Am I The Asshole sub has long been a source of entertainment for me. I won’t actually use the site – everyone I’ve met who uses Reddit is an insufferable know-it-all whose every word drips with condescension and white male supposed superiority – but other forms of social media seem to be keen to
Here Are Some Things About a Person That Would Turn Me Off Dating Them Obsessively into the gym. Exercise is great; refusing to eat bread is strange and concerning. Not a feminist. Women deserve bodily autonomy, equal pay and fair treatment. Bad breath. I wouldn’t want to kiss anyone with rotten teeth. I imagine if
Rape is horrifying. I’m not here to deny that, and if you are, then you need to seriously reevaluate your life. What makes things, somehow, even worse, is when the rapist is supposed to be a trustworthy person; someone you can turn to or rely upon, especially in a professional circumstance. Whilst the UK still
My friends and I were at brunch last week when the topic of dating came up. One of them – let’s call her Patricia – was upset about how much the dating world has changed since we were in our twenties. ‘It used to be so straightforward!’ she said, ‘You met someone you liked, you
Here’s an easy litmus test for the first date. If they’re rude to the waiter, don’t go for a second date. If they spend the whole time talking about themselves, delete their number. Chances are they won’t notice because they’ll have fallen in love with their own reflection in a clear pool and will be
Imagine I am sitting under a tree, wearing flowing robes, wisdom seeming to pour off me. Perhaps I sip a drink or smell a flower and then pause, dramatically, before sharing the knowledge that I have spent decades compounding. Here is what I have to offer, specifically about straight men on dating apps. Firstly, they
Has anyone told Covid that it’s over? Sure, we’ve given up on banana bread and the news seems to focus on the situation in Ukraine instead of the latest death toll (or the monkey flu outbreak) but, as I can personally attest, coronavirus is still affecting our lives and dating scene. Having managed over two
Have you ever had a relationship that seems almost perfect? You like the same things, have the same goals, and get along just great, with one exception. Your partner has unresolved trauma that keeps causing problems. Whether it is anxiety, jealousy, mistrust, or some other issue, these things can truly destroy otherwise good relationships. Wouldn’t
